Saturday 1 September 2012

Truth Hurts


It seems it does tonight…

I haven’t written about my ‘intimate’ life on this blog before but I feel the need to do so now.

A few weeks ago, prior to our holiday, we went to celebrate the birthday and also housewarming of a lovely French friend. Himself imbibed too much and almost fell asleep at the table. I thought we should leave and go home, how we made it into our door I don’t know – he could barely keep the car on the road and French roads being what they are, we went the very rural route, I clung to the seat as we swerved through the lanes. Fortunately we got home unscathed. He did not remember any of it the next day.

Last week we celebrated another friend’s birthday. By 9pm he was ready to leave, dozing at the table, again. We left and just made it home, no shortcuts this time. Thank heavens the gendarmes were not around, he would have lost his licence.

Tonight, we were supposed to be at another French friend’s, for the evening, again celebrating a birthday. 

He had forgotten to tell me so it was not pencilled in. (grrr)

He was bemoaning about missing this event and I said “At least I won’t be driven home by a drunk tonight”.

Ooops, you could have cut the atmosphere with a knife.

Truth hurts…. He did not like what I said – he didn’t have an answer and has gone to bed slamming the (his) door.  

He has a drink problem and won't acknowledge it. I live with him, I don’t have to but I do.

We sleep in separate rooms as his nocturnal 'behaviour' disturbs me too much, he does not snore, he just shouts and sometimes screams in his sleeps. His conversations, well one side of, are amazing but I cannot stand being woken three or four times a night and having to listen. He also kicks and punches so I am best out of the way. As far as he is concerned he has had a good nights sleep. He is obviously disturbed about something or maybe his medication has a play in this.  .  

Maybe things will change.

4 comments:

  1. The medication may well be a factor.
    Mr. Fly had a period of strange behaviour which our lovely GP put down to a change in the meds he was given after an attack.
    Took away the pills and the behaviour reverted to normal....but it was distinctly worrying while it lasted!

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  2. Fly is right about the odd side-effects of medication, but the drinking is a different problem and one it will be hard for him to admit to. Bringing it out into the open like this may just be a first step on the road to that happening, but it doesn't make things easy for you.

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  3. Blimey, never mind the gendarmes, I'd be be afraid for my life.
    Surely something's wrong and needs facing. And dealing with.

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  4. I was initially afraid when I read how calmly you narrated being driven home by someone under the influence. Then I questioned your own acceptance of this. And having got to the post end I am so saddened that this is your current life.
    Fly may be right - it could be down to medication. Friko is right - something needs doing.
    I have a relative whose nocturnal behaviour was eventually diagnosed as a rare form of dementia - he was and is almost perfectly normal during the day (and if I can remember the name of the disease I will re comment).
    However, whatever the cause this is not safe or happy for you. I do not know you - and you do not know me - but please act to protect yourself. And by acting you may even save himself.

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