Tomorrow I go to the UK. With my daughter, son in law and grandchildren....
I Have been put on a 'guilt trip ' by my husband....
So what do I do?
Yes, I know that he has problems with his lungs.... it has been years of smoking non-filtered cigarettes and also working in the paper making industry with cellulose fibres creating problems, again with his lungs. He has been told over the past few years that he needed to stop smoking and to take a healthier lifestyle. Did he listen??? no of course not - what did they know (the professionals that is!).
What pisses me off the most is the fact that it is the day that my family arrive to visit that he becomes 'ill' it is almost as though he has planned it all and that he does not want me to go away and leave him.....
I have brought in friends and neighbours to keep a check on him.
Today we went to see the 'other' doctor in the village (ours is on half term hols) and he has come up with an alternative treatment for his problem.
So, this early evening our local nurse arrives and gives my dear man injections (in the buttocks!) of cortisone and antibiotics. Poor man, he has to have this for another 4 days...
This morning, after daughter and son-in-law go to shop for essentials, he says to me "I don't think you should go"...... well - I hit the roof!!! I have arranged visits to family and friends in the UK as well as my return flight... did I want to change all of that - lose money and disappoint people NO WAY!!!!! ....
The upshot was, I told him was that he was totally selfish and that he should stop thinking of himself and look after himself and think of others for a change.... I also said 'thats it - give me a guilt trip - thank you very much but it is time that your started to think for yourself!!! etc. etc.' and that I did not want to listen to him or talk to him any more...... Oh - how I hate arguments and having to shout at him but today I had to - and what do I get??? a pathetic look...Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
So - I go to the UK for a nice break. Yes he will be looked after - not by me though- but by the nurse and neighbours and friends.

I went to Turkey 18 months ago with a friend. He was given 6 months notice that I was going and all plans were discussed. I also spent time in the UK with family... What did I get when home.....grief, yes grief. I asked him about it the other week and what was the response "I felt abandoned".... WHAT? . I came home.. He was not taken out in a car and left at the side of the road. I phoned him every day. I let him know what was going on. ABANDONED? .... No way.... What is the matter with the man??? Does he have a separation issue? is it pre-alzhemiers? or is he just a ****?

Oh, I know I am going on a bit.. it was our 40th wedding anniversary at the weekend. We got married on 14th Feb 1970 - it would have been nice to celebrate this special day but no.... he has no sense of celebration. When I mentioned our 25th anniversary (some 18 months before) he said "what's the point?". Why should I expect anything more for our 40th? I would love to travel, take a cruise or whatever, just to say that we are still together after all this time (we started seeing each other January 1967). We have become inextricably linked through all this time and I cannot imagine life without him. I think he feels the same and he relies on me for everything. The thought of starting a life with someone else is really unthinkable.... I would just like for him to think about us and celebrate the time we have...... Maybe in the future, who can tell.

I will catch up after my sojourn in the UK. Will be so wonderful to see little Georges, oh how I miss that boy, and of course my other grandchildren and my siblings and mum. Hopefully I will feel better after the break....