tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-47810553012925978392024-02-19T07:49:38.003-08:00An 'Old Biddies' LifeThoughts put into words by someone that needs to talk!!Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger250125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-56257860215869873162013-09-22T11:54:00.002-07:002013-09-22T11:54:52.480-07:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
You get to the point when you wonder why the fuck you carry on...<br />
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I thought everything was OK but it is not.<br />
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Hubby let a 'friend', in the loosest sense of the word, borrow his
trailer ramps and also have our old cooker.. we were due 100 euro for
the cooker – not paid yet and the ramps have not been returned.<br />
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I did not know that the ramps had been 'borrowed'. They cost a lot
of money.<br />
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This friend was going to sort out our car, and also lots of other
mechanical things.<br />
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Wrong!<br />
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Nothing has been sorted and we are now out of pocket.<br />
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I am so pissed off with it all.<br />
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Does my other half, husband, or whatever you want to call him,
care?
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NO – he does not.<br />
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That is why I am again so pissed off..<br />
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It is our money that is affected – what comes in and what goes
out.
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He does not seem to give a toss.<br />
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Again I get so bloody angry.<br />
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I have contacted the 'friend' and asked that he contact us to
return the ramps and pay the money that he owes.<br />
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He has not been in touch.<br />
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We do not even know where he bloody well lives!<br />
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I have asked a mutual friend if they know.... fortunately they do.<br />
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When I get back from my short break then I / we will make a visit.<br />
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How on earth did I get mixed up with someone who does not give a
toss?<br />
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Grrr, I get so angry and it does not do my health much good which
is why I express it here.</div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-49258827638150068952013-08-19T11:49:00.002-07:002013-08-19T11:49:25.515-07:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I am not responsible for his health problems, for his aches
or pains, he is… he is not a child. <o:p></o:p></div>
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If he does not take his medication to help then tough, if he
does not arrange to go and see a physio to help his pains then tough. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I am not his nurse, or his doctor. </div>
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Yes I am his wife but
there is only so much one can take and one can do, if I suggest anything to
help then I am nagging. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I get angry with him as he will not help himself.<o:p></o:p></div>
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He is not in danger of losing his life or his ability to
walk….. at the moment.<o:p></o:p></div>
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He has little clots in his bloodstream, he has an aneurysm
(aorta) that is being monitored. He has COPD (chronic obstructive pulmonary
disease) and will not do anything to help improve his lung function or even his
general health. <o:p></o:p></div>
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How on earth he has made 70 years is amazing.. <o:p></o:p></div>
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He is basically a lazy person.<o:p></o:p></div>
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He can swim but will he go for the health benefits? No<o:p></o:p></div>
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He has been told to walk 1km a day – will he do more? No<o:p></o:p></div>
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He is, or seems to be, dependent on alcohol, probably now an
alcoholic although he does not drink during the day but can put half a bottle
brandy or home brew pineau away in an evening after beer and wine.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I find him very difficult to live with.<o:p></o:p></div>
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We do not talk without arguing or even seem to have anything
in common… but then did we in the beginning?<o:p></o:p></div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-84071289755569870992013-08-09T08:25:00.002-07:002013-08-09T08:25:20.519-07:00Snobs?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I saw a strange statement posted in the Ladies group I am a
member of on Facebook. <o:p></o:p></div>
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The subject matter was, once again, about the awful people
around who are gossipmongers and backstabbers etc…. we all know the type and
that it happens.<o:p></o:p></div>
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The statement came from a woman who has a theory that the
‘social classes are all muddled up’ and that ’Brits are just thrown together’
which is why there are so many ‘problems’ encountered by the ex-pat community. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I cannot quite understand why she said such a thing and personally
find it a foolish and possibly an inflammatory thing to say. <o:p></o:p></div>
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It is a bit like the sketch with the Two Ronnies and John
Cleese where they all know their place and it seems that this person thinks
that the same applies out here.<o:p></o:p></div>
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If she is so anti-mix of social class then she should not
mix with the hoi polloi in the big wide world and live in her own little world.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-83576454467657373982013-07-28T12:40:00.001-07:002013-07-28T12:49:35.518-07:00Changes?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; line-height: 115%;">I have just looked back at my last postings, oh my
they were some weeks back and I was in a ‘sensitive’ state.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; line-height: 115%;">Since then I have spoken with my doctor. Bless her,
she listened as I explained in my halting French, sometimes breaking into
English.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; line-height: 115%;">I was at the lowest of low. I could not sleep or
concentrate and was very prone to tears – I had dreamt that I was with my
sister and as I went to say goodbye to her she kept moving just out of reach….
I was devastated when I woke up. I suppose it was a catalyst. All my husband
could say was, “Well, you are allowed to grieve”. There was no comforting arm
around me…. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; line-height: 115%;">I explained all to my lovely doc. When I first spoke
about how I was feeling she asked if it was to do with his drinking (which is
still excessive in my eyes) and I said yes but also to do with my loss, we
talked about my feelings and she listened, I was not dismissed by her at all,
she had time for me. I was prescribed a mild sleeping pill and also an
antidepressant. I must admit I have felt calmer since – have been sleeping well
which I hadn’t for months… </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; line-height: 115%;">Some days I feel marvellous and could take on the
world, other times I just want to stay snuggled in my bed - I don’t want to self-diagnose but I know
there is still a long way to go before I am me again – whoever <i>me</i> is!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; line-height: 115%;">We can put depression down to many factors, the
weather was crap beginning of the year, many grey, short days – total lack of
sunshine – too many ‘comfort’ meals meaning extra ‘stodge’ in the system. I suppose
it was the wheel of life turning very slowly, in a depressing pattern, just waiting for sunshine to enter my life. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; line-height: 115%;">For me it has been a combination of factors. Last year
was good(ish), I managed two lovely holidays – something I have needed for a
very long time. He does not seem to need such stimulus, he is happy in his own
little world. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; line-height: 115%;">This year the grey days seemed to last forever, just
wanting to hibernate was on the agenda and to fill with warming food, then the
death of my sister totally upset my equilibrium… where does one turn? Who can
one turn to? Why oh why did she go? Those questions and others but no ray of
sunshine to open the heavens for guidance… feeling totally lost. I still ask the questions but am not so lost..
I can talk about her and her life now and shed a little tear but not the ‘buckets’
as before.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; line-height: 115%;">Since then I have
had a very good couple of months.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; line-height: 115%;">We went to the UK to celebrate another of his
significant birthdays which was held at our eldest daughters house (bless her).
All of the family turned up except for his sister in law, niece and nephew who
are totally out of the family equation at the moment – one of those familial
things that we all encounter sometimes in our lives. We also invited old
friends that he had not seen for many years… he was delighted. It was lovely to
have all of the family (albeit only my side and there were plenty of those),
and old friends together.. Such a shame that my mother was unable to join the
celebration – she felt it would be much too much for her.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; line-height: 115%;">In June we had a couple of the grandchildren come to
stay and they were here for celebration no 2. Lucky man! Party with family then
party with French and English friends here, just brilliant! We loved it.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; line-height: 115%;">Then my other sister came to stay for a few days in
which we had some good ‘sister’ time together then, amazingly, followed by my
dear friend arriving for a week as sister departed to UK. So good to have a couple of lovely women to talk
to, have a laugh, and to put the world to rights with. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">All in all the last few weeks have been good for me,
and for him I think. He knows there are other people out there who care about us…… </span><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: xx-small;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-7851528437492572132013-05-15T11:28:00.001-07:002013-05-15T11:28:15.441-07:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Those that are supposedly in 'the nick' are not it seems....<br />
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He was at a conference in London over the weekend.<br />
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Meanwhile, I will be here, in France, putting the gossip to bed and silencing the gossip-mongers.<br />
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I hope.<br />
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I am on the job...<br />
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-12951954771281470882013-05-05T07:54:00.000-07:002013-05-05T07:54:09.927-07:00Something Nasty in the North<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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We have some good friends, they don’t live close to us now,
which is such a shame as I would love to see them more.</div>
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They moved away a little while ago and now we only talk via
Skype or email.<o:p></o:p></div>
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If and when we get the opportunity to see them ‘face to face’
catching up is a pleasure, as is the shared food, wine and laughter.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I was surprised then, last week, when I got an email from
her saying that someone had said to a stranger that her husband had been
involved in criminal activities. <o:p></o:p></div>
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My friend was undoubtedly shocked and horrified by this, as
was I. This information reached my friends via a 3<sup>rd</sup> party who was
as shocked as we were.<o:p></o:p></div>
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We have no idea where this ‘idea’ of criminality came from
and are puzzled why it was said.<o:p></o:p></div>
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There is a small <i>minded
</i>clique that lives north of us and it is someone within that area that said
the offending ‘thing’, we do not know if she (and we know it is a she) is a
member of this clique but have a suspicion that she is.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Have they nothing to do with their lives than spread malicious
rumours about someone they do not even know.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I also heard from some friends here that other friends told
them that a couple that we knew – also moved away – are languishing in prison. Both
of them it seems…. <o:p></o:p></div>
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We know he did some dodgy things out here, was prosecuted
and fined, but his wife was not implicated at all and his offence was not one
that would result in prison… <o:p></o:p></div>
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Where on earth did that bit of gossip come from? <o:p></o:p></div>
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Again it is a couple that are not here and do not have any
way of defending themselves.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I sit and I listen and make gentle probes and if I can I put
things right, I will, discreetly.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I do not tell stories, tall tales or spread gossip about
people that I don’t know let alone people I do know.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I would not dream of it, let alone hear something and then
tell someone else who will spread the word and no doubt embellish it on the
way.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I just cannot understand it at all, these people seem to have no conscience at all and no thought about those that are the subject of their gossip and lies. </div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-12245052142876065062013-04-15T12:58:00.001-07:002013-04-15T13:01:05.431-07:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Over the past few weeks I have been feeling very 'tense'.<br />
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I find my jaw tightening and my head 'pulsing' and my tinnitus louder...<br />
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I am not sure why, or maybe I know why.<br />
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I cannot talk through my feelings with my 'nearest and dearest' because he just shrugs and walks away.<br />
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It is difficult to communicate in another language with my doctor.<br />
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My last check up with my medecin my BP was up "yes" I said, "I have been stressed." She did not ask why.<br />
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I think it is to do with the loss of my sister, the crap weather we have been having, his lack of talking to me.<br />
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I am fed up with the cleaning, laundry, vacuuming, bed making, planning daily menus, the cooking, planning decor, decorating, planning garden, gardening, sorting out the 'crap'.<br />
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He is either reading, playing computer games, eating, drinking or sleeping... He loves his afternoon nap - drives me up the wall. I would love to have a full day out - no, he does not even think about it.<br />
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I have said about going to various places to visit or for a few days holiday. He says, if you want to go, then go. I ask, what about you - he says I'm fine, you go..<br />
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I want to share my life with him..<br />
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WHY???? <br />
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I would love to walk away from it all.<br />
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I would like someone to listen to me.<br />
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I would like someone to care.<br />
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Depression is awful but I do not want to resort to taking medication that will shut 'me' off.<br />
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I am 'me', and 'me', or 'I', am going through a period of time that is 'black' - I will not say it is a 'crisis' - I have never been in a 'crisis', but have been depressed in the past.<br />
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Churchill had his 'Black Dog' that visited - I think I have that at the moment - all people do but whether they acknowledge or not is a different matter.<br />
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After the birth of our third child I suffered from post-natal depression. I was tearful most of the time and was, basically, on automatic pilot with not only my children but my husband.<br />
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He thought that the remedy was regular sex...<br />
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Now that was so wrong, love and care yes but being 'fucked' on a regular basis did not remedy the problem, in fact it made it worse - made me feel worthless - I considered myself a baby and 'fuck' machine.<br />
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Sounds so crude but, at the time, true. <br />
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I was on two lots of pills, prescribed by the doctor, uppers and downers from what I remember. Something to get rid of the depression and something to perk me up... My mind was a fuzz most of the time...<br />
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Our children have been unaffected by this episode, I hope. They do not remember it although our eldest child will say that she thought I went through a difficult time.<br />
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How I got through it I don't know but I do not want to go down that route again.<br />
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I would rather go for a holistic remedy.<br />
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And, as for sex.... well that has not figured in my life for a long time. <br />
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f he ever says "it's been a long time since..." I will say 'well, tough, it is the same for me'.<br />
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Oh My God, this is dire, but at least I have got it out of my system..</div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-20277486115419974932013-03-30T08:12:00.000-07:002013-04-02T12:57:15.539-07:00 An idea published<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I have recently become acquainted with a new author. She has
just published her first novel and at the moment I am reading my copy. <o:p></o:p></div>
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The novel is an ‘alternate history’ thriller, and I am
finding it exciting and intriguing. <o:p></o:p></div>
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The author, <a href="http://alison-morton.com/blog/my-books/inceptio/">Alison Morton</a> has had an undying interest in
all things relating to ancient Rome. </div>
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Her
interest was ‘sparked’ on a visit to an ancient site in Spain when she was a
young girl and once it got a grip it would not let go. </div>
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She pondered the
question, ‘Supposing Women were the rulers in Rome, how would the world be now?’ </div>
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That was her vision and that idea is the
basis of the book.<o:p></o:p></div>
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The basic synopsis is
of a young woman in modern America, but not the USA as we know it. Centuries back
the Roman Empire did not just ‘dissolve’ away but part of it split away and
became a ‘matriarchal’ European country. </div>
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The heroine of this novel is totally
unaware that she is descended from one of the most important families in Roma
Nova as this fictional country is known. Her life is suddenly shaken up and is
in danger from political enemies. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I won’t say any more, just that this fast paced book ‘Inceptio’
is getting good reviews and is selling well. <o:p></o:p></div>
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The second book is at the final proofing stage book, number
three is ready as well and she is working on number four. Am looking forward to
seeing them in print as well<o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
Alison has my admiration for sticking to her guns and
working very hard over the past 4 years getting it all together.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
It is nice to meet a person with a sense of history and who,
like me, absolutely hates bad spelling and grammar as well as the misuse and
bad spelling of Latin and French phrases. <o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
I had a friend contact me, she will be visiting me with some other friends,
and she said ‘I will be picking up X & Y on root’. <o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
Eek…… <o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
I find it unbelievable that someone who has lived here for
10 years cannot spell a basic French phrase.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
Or am I just 'picky' ?</div>
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<br /></div>
</div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-38830230456865711502013-03-22T15:20:00.003-07:002013-03-22T15:20:38.268-07:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<br />
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What do you do if you have forgotten how to pray?<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
I used to pray but haven’t done so in such a long time.<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
I feel that I need to send messages to that ‘being’, who is known as God. <o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
I need answers. <o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
As a baptised Catholic I am finding this very difficult. <o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
There are Methodist and Anglican vicars in my locality but I
don’t know of any English speaking ‘Roman’ priests that could help me.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
I feel at a spiritual loss.<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
It is no good talking to ‘himself’ as he is a
self-proclaimed agnostic… he has an ‘aggressive’ aversion to religion of any
shape or form. </div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
I have no idea what he is
afraid of, but there is something in his background that has formed this
opinion.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
There is no empathy from him.<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
When he knew my sister had died his response, basically, was
‘Sorry, but when you get to our age people you know die.’ </div>
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</div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
I can’t remember his exact words but that was
the impression I got.<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
It seems as though the part of his brain that has feelings,
empathy etc. is switched off. <o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
The part of his brain that is concerned with himself though
is fully up and running!<o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
We had friends round for lunch yesterday. </div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
They left at
around 4pm. </div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
He continued drinking, had a light snack later.<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
At half past midnight this morning I heard him in the loo
voiding himself of all and everything.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
When I mentioned it this morning he had no recollection….<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
I so need solace.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
Tears come very easy these days.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
The Old Biddie is not very happy…<o:p></o:p></div>
</div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-25091101264734003612013-03-12T11:16:00.003-07:002013-03-12T11:16:57.613-07:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<br />
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Have
just arrived back home after a rather stressful week.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">I
was supposed to be returning to the UK on the 7<sup>th</sup> March to celebrate
my mother’s 92<sup>nd</sup> birthday, the whole family were going to have a
lovely party in her honour in my sister’s new house. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Life
was turned upside down on the 22<sup>nd</sup> February.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">I
cancelled my flight (he was staying here) and booked a ferry for the two of us
instead for the following Tuesday. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">We
saw mum and our children, did some shopping, he returned on the Saturday and I
stayed on for another week.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">I
found it all very surreal, a piece of my life had been switched off. My mother
is not one for emotions, she is a very private person and keeps her feelings to
herself. She will voice her opinions and thoughts though. We talked, she wept a
little, I wept a little, she was unhappy that her daughters partner of 14 yrs was left with nothing.
They had not married. Maybe they planned to in the future, but the future
didn’t happen. Mum is very fond of him and, I think, would have loved him for a
son-in-law.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">And
so my life has changed.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">I
am now the eldest child in the family. My brother is not too enamoured of that
idea, yes, I was his older sister but now the eldest sister.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">The
airline company, who normally get bad press for their practices have agreed to
refund my flight costs. </span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Good.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">When
I got home I found that no cleaning had been done in the house. When we left it
was clean. I am stating my case and whether he likes it or not is tough. He obviously
needs to <i>employ</i> a housekeeper, cook and cleaner. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">And,
to my horror, not only am I turning into my mother but I am turning into my mother in law! I
bought a lovely pair of shoes for the summer and what does he say “My mum had a
pair of shoes just like that.”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Eeek!
<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">I
mentioned that the lounge decoration should have been finished so that we could
get on with the next thing that needed doing. </span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Response was, “Yes and the
gardening & etc.” I wondered what he was on about. </span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">“Do you mean that <i>you </i>think <i>you </i>needed to finish the painting? If I had been here then it would
have been done, as it is I was in the UK, because of my sister’s death, it had
always been my intention for <i>me</i> to finish it.” Was my response, along with a
few swear words. </span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">“Oh.” He said.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Anyway,
painting is now done. Just need to put paper on the wall.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Papering over the cracks?</span></div>
</div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-5614048927827294822013-02-24T08:26:00.001-08:002013-02-24T08:26:35.206-08:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
My lovely sister lost her battle/fight, however one would describe such a thing, with cancer early Friday morning.....<br />
<br />
It was so sudden, my whole family are shocked to the core at the speed of her death.<br />
<br />
'Oh,' said the medics 'she has a few months, time to get the necessary affairs sorted.' 'We will keep her comfortable & etc......' <br />
<br />
'Oh' we said 'We will all have a chance to see her and say our goodbyes.'<br />
<br />
WRONG!<br />
<br />
I am going through all sorts of emotions at the moment... Anger is to the fore most of the time. Angry that she did not stop smoking. Angry that I did not have that last chat with her. Angry that she in all probability knew she had cancer. Angry that my mother has lost a child. Angry that her children have lost their mother. Angry that her grandchildren have lost their grandmother. Angry that her partner, who is so devoted, is now alone again.<br />
<br />
So, I am off to the UK for not the best of reasons.<br />
<br />
I know I will feel calmer once I have seen my family. </div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-82338220843568745182013-02-20T11:57:00.000-08:002013-02-20T11:57:08.885-08:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<br />
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Would like think that those who
gossip about people that are no longer here will be gossiped about when they
leave.<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
I get really annoyed that they
think they have the right to tell ‘all and sundry’ (that is Brits) about people
that they do not know, I keep my counsel and listen. <o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
One day I will say, contact ‘so
and so.’ “Here is his/her email address and I am sure that they will give you
the details that you are lacking.”<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
I had a lovely lady stay with me
at my B&B. She was from Luxembourg and visiting France for one of her
children that had been invited to a birthday party. This lady was from my part
of the UK and was married to a French banker. We had a long, lovely chat, she
was absolutely delightful. It seems that in the ‘State’ of Luxembourg everyone
knows the business of everyone else. Apparently the Americans are the worst for
gossip. When I mentioned that a (small) town near to us was full of English she
said ‘Oh My God a mini Luxembourg! How can you put up with it!) I stated that I
avoided the place like the plague.. She smiled and laughed. I detected a little
‘jealousy’ there. I feel that in spite of her husband’s wonderful job she would
prefer the simple life.<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
I am happy being on the periphery
of the Ex-patriot community, the more I hear the more I want to hide away. When
you get down to it we are immigrants – the sort of people that the English are
complaining about…<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
In spite of the above I have met
some really lovely ladies recently. Ladies that are on the same wavelength as
me. We can chat about all and everything and it is intelligent chat, nothing
inane. <o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
I do really need to get to grips
with the local French ladies and what is going on in the village. I have been
very remiss I must admit… will work on it and let all my followers know how I
get on.<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
On the family front all is well.
There are a few issues with TJ, probably because he is getting ‘bigger’ – it
seems his anti-seizure medication is not up to scratch. It needs to be
according to his weight I think. <o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
I still don’t know how his mum
copes with it all. <o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
She has two other children to
consider as well. Eldest child is now 15 yrs old and is coping with having to
help his mother and brother.<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
It does worry me…. Her daughter
seems to be daddy’s (daddy not being
fully involved in family life.)
‘princess’ which really pisses me off as at the age of 10 is no use to
her mother at all… am I being ‘off the wall?’ when I ask that children do not
help their mother and siblings? <o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
Grrrr.<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
Have just had another anniversary, was it acknowledged totally... no - I think I will need to arrange a proper celebration of our years together. I get very sad....</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
Am decorating the house,
painting walls in the ‘salon’ and it is
looking good. I have art works to put on the walls and they need a decent
backdrop. I work my socks, arms, calves off painting and end up feeling
knackered. It looks good though. </div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
I am pleased. </div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
He says ‘ it’s a bit dark!’ I
say ‘ wait ‘til the sun shines.’ </div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
What a
difference once the sun is out… I am pleased with the effect and when I have
put pictures etc on the walls it looks so very good… Hallway is almost finished and it also looks very
good. </div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
Got to sort out bathroom – made a scale plan and sourced and priced the
finished articles. </div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
I know it will work!<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
Will keep all and sundry posted.x<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<br /></div>
</div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-28728867825836332952013-02-20T11:55:00.001-08:002013-02-20T11:55:24.826-08:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I know yesterday's post was dire but I needed to express my feelings in the simplest of ways to people who do not know me...<br />
<br />
I don't want sycophantic crap from the group (LIFT) I belong to, the thought of their platitudes and advice would nauseate me as I am not an unintelligent woman who needs someone to tell me 'this and that'.<br />
<br />
My lovely sister is my first friend, playmate and confidante. She had her own name for me as she could not pronounce my name properly being only 16 months old when I was born. Her children only know me by the name she called me. We would share a bedroom, clothes, makeup, fall out, make up, share experiences and, would you believe, a boyfriend (who eventually became my husband).<br />
<br />
I remember we went out one evening, many years ago, and met a couple of lovely lads. We told them we were twins. My sister had auburn hair, the deepest brown eyes, fair skin and freckles. I had almost black hair, green eyes and olive skin. We were 18 yrs and 16 yrs old. The lads bought it! We said not all twins were identical. Got a few drinks and a wonderful evening out of them! Wicked? No, we were young and enjoying life.<br />
<br />
I love this lady who continually smoked from the age of 16... and that is her downfall. If only, I wish...<br />
<br />
My God I will miss her so much. </div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-64051646269616084212013-02-19T12:47:00.002-08:002013-02-19T12:47:16.405-08:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal">
How can I say this?<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
I have just had the most devastating news.<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
My sister has just a few months to live.<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
She has cancer.<o:p></o:p></div>
</div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-44489813851835309082013-01-24T12:53:00.000-08:002013-01-24T12:56:59.916-08:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Life has been ticking along nicely.<br />
<br />
Weather has been good and bad, snow and cold then sunny and no snow.<br />
<br />
We were welcomed to the town a couple of weeks ago. Got a lovely invitation in the post and so we trotted off to the Salle de Fetes on the Saturday morning. The Salle had hundreds of chairs facing the stage, wow, that many have arrived!<br />
<br />
The Maire came and said hello and shook our hands as did the deputy Maire and the Councillors. They were so very nice!<br />
<br />
Eventually the presentation started. A screen had been set up for a power point presentation. They went through what the town had done during 2012 from road works to theatre and dance to new citizen. Then there was presentation of bouquets for people for the 'Ville floraison' and then for us newbies. We were last, probably because of our surname, but we were introduced as 'les Anglais', no problems for me at all, there are another couple recently moved in but they did not show. Handshakes and bisous were on the agenda comme d'habitude. We were given a welcome pack giving details of the village and also a small plant (for the garden - a primula). What fun! We then had aperos (non-alcohol) and nibbles and chats with locals...<br />
<br />
So now we are legal in the town. I feel that we belong.<br />
<br />
At our last village we had a short presentation and that was all. Nothing special.<br />
<br />
There is a website where you can see how much debt your commune has, our last communes debts increased enormously since the last elections, at least our lady Maire then there kept the expenses down.<br />
<br />
We were invited by our immediate neighbours for the Fete de Roi, we sat and partook of feuillettee and brioche and a really nice raspberry beer, for the ladies, and another beer for the men.It seems that there is a new brasserie in our local large town offering quite a variety of beers, will have to take a look and see if they have any good English Beers (doubt it). All in all a very enjoyable evening, AND, it snowed, within 3 hrs we had over 1" of snow.<br />
<br />
The snow was all gone by Monday afternoon. I did enquire whether they enjoyed their 'Pudding de Noel' that I gave them just before Christmas.<br />
<br />
The answer was a definite 'YES', they loved it. <br />
<br />
Now strange as it may seem I found a recipe for Christmas pudding in a French magazine and reading through it, it is accurate and authentic. I did tell them that I have a recette for them and they said that they would like a copy. So copy I will.<br />
<br />
We are plodding on with the decor indoors. Hallway almost finished and I must admit it is looking good. Have re-arranged the lounge as the chimney is in the most difficult of places, we have had a wood burner installed with a black 'tube/pipe' chimney up into the ceiling. I suppose the chimney is about 1/4 of the way from one wall. If only it was in a corner it would make life so easy, but hey ho, you do your best with what you have got.<br />
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Needed to move the dining area to the other end of the room, so for two days we have been shifting furniture from here to there, and hey, it works! But, we need to have the aerial/cable for the TV moved. Thank heavens for our lovely neighbour - now there is a man who can!!<br />
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Surprising how ones life changes, it takes me around 30 mins to vacuum and dust through the house and when I decide to do a 'proper' clean you can add another 30 mins... Wasn't like that at my last place. I just wish the weather would improve so I can start to get bits done in the garden.<br />
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Have had enough of the grey days, at least it will start to improve over the next couple of weeks (please God!).<br />
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-58840387777036138382013-01-21T15:20:00.000-08:002013-01-21T15:20:28.818-08:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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This evening, for some unknown reason, I got embroiled in
the most amazing argument on the LIFT Facebook page. <o:p></o:p></div>
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A member asked the question about offering ready to heat
meals, mainly curries, for sale to members of the public and whether they would
be interested. <o:p></o:p></div>
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There were a few responses before I replied.<o:p></o:p></div>
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This lady had all the necessary catering qualifications
(English) but they are different here in France. I just endeavoured to point
her in the right direction so I suggested that the ‘poster’ created a business
and then went through the proper channels to be legitimate in France, even giving her a link to someone selling food here.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Another person said ‘Are you taking the Mick & etc.?’<o:p></o:p></div>
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Well this comment opened all sorts of responses, bearing in
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A lot of people agreed with the fact that she needed to be
legal. After all I was only trying to help her, heaven forbid that she goes down
the wrong route and ends up being closed down and fined a lot of money that she
cannot afford. <o:p></o:p></div>
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There were a couple out here who ran a pork business; oh you
know, “We breed rare breed pigs and
make sausages, pies, sell chops, piglets etc.” Yes, they got caught out and had to pay an enormous
amount in fines and eventually left the country. Yes, they were running the business without the necessary permissions! </div>
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Don’t like to see that
happening to someone wanting to make a living out here.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Eventually the posting
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There was a lot of
vitriol. <o:p></o:p></div>
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So there is, out there, the occasional person that will stir
up something innocuous and turn it into a storm.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I was quite surprised at the response from this particular
person, I just could not understand why she had responded in such a way. </div>
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Maybe she
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Am I making excuses for someone with issues?<o:p></o:p></div>
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I have had support from people that I know as well as those
that I don’t know.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I won’t keep my mouth shut when there is knowledge to share. </div>
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I do not like to see people get the wrong sort of advice.<o:p></o:p></div>
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If I don’t know then I won’t say but if I do then I will and
on this occasion I did.</div>
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Protests are afoot in Gay Paree - it seems that the 'ordinary' folk are not so happy about the proposals of M. Hollande to allow same-sex marriage. I hear all the shouting on the news and see the images in the press.<br />
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Trains, buses and other alternative transport was laid on to allow the protesters, for and against, to congregate and make their stand.<br />
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I will just stay here in the relative comfort of my home and observe from the sidelines.<br />
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It will another one of M. Hollands plans to bite the dust, peut etre.<br />
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At least the Justice Dept. are happy to throw out his ideas.<br />
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We are in the process of decorating, this has been an ongoing task for around 6 months now. It is only the hallway being done but it is looking very nice, almost finished I am pleased to say.<br />
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Himself has been papering, I did a little but found that up and down the ladder did me no good and put me in pain for a few days. It is all to do, I hope, with the arthritis in the base of my spine and how affects my hip. Referred pain can be a bit of a nuisance as you are not sure what area to treat. I did have a cortisone injection a couple of years ago and that made no difference whatsoever. I do hate to take painkillers and want to go for the natural approach to pain when possible.<br />
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The local ladies group is now in four figures, not bad in four years but it seems that a little friction is making its way in.<br />
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I suppose it is a bit like a large all girls school, you either get on or you don't, sometimes you argue, call each other names or even tell someone exactly what you think of them. You fall out and then make up and remain friends or never speak to the other party again. So far this year there have been two nasty spats.. oh dear!<br />
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The 'headmistress' has been very diplomatic over these 'infantile' postings.<br />
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There is also the lady who's house bounds on a farmers field, they had a falling out a while back, over something minor, and now the farmer is building a shed against their house. Lady and husband are now selling up, if they can.<br />
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I think that this year there will be quite a few changes here, some people will find that life is not all it's cut up to be and will be opting out and trying somewhere else.<br />
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Wheat and Chaff come to mind.<br />
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-74859740239246988992012-12-25T12:58:00.001-08:002012-12-25T12:58:23.872-08:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
'tis Christmas Day and not a thing is stirring except my fingers on the keyboard, well at least in this house!<br />
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Have not done a lot, had a basic breakfast and sorted left overs for lunch.<br />
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Decided this year to dispense with the cooking of culinary treats and ordered our dinner from the local supermarket caterers, first time for us!<br />
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We had flambe'd crayfish tails followed by Ostrich with a Sauternes and Mirabelle sauce, taters and mushroom dariole and confit of chestnuts. Washed down with a locally sourced champagne (not Cristal!) and it cost less than 35 euro for the two of us.... No room for Christmas pud afterwards! Will keep that for later.<br />
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It would have cost a lot more for me to source the ingredients and cook and an awful lot more to eat the same in a restaurant...<br />
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All in all it was delicious....<br />
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I have seen what others have prepared for this holiest of days. It seems to be that people out here, at least, want to outdo others. Personally I just cannot stand pretentious people. Why do they give this air of being richer and better when they are on their uppers (in my opinion). One day they will get their just desserts, flambe'd or not.<br />
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My lovelies in the UK are fine, at least that is what they tell me. No 1 is OK, her children are OK, all is good.<br />
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No. 2 has her 'not quite ex-husband as he has not signed the final papers' back in her life. I am concerned about this. He was kicked out as he was not pulling his weight and spending money on his 'drug' needs. Daughter has sorted out all debts and got her and her children's life on track and suddenly he is back. Yes I am concerned.<br />
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No. 3 has split with the father of her children. All I can say is 'thank heavens they never married.' There have been a lot of issues and he is now with his father. His family is totally dysfunctional as far as I am concerned. Dad married young, did drugs, wife left him with two children, died of overdose. Daughter is unable to establish a long term relationship with any man of her own age, goes for men of her fathers age. Son is into cannabis, cannot do without. Brother of father lives with girlfriend and has done for many years - no children. girlfriend will not marry because of family history... Dad is locally respected councillor(?) So why did my daughter get mixed up with them??<br />
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In spite of all my grandchildren seem very well adjusted....<br />
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I am looking forward to the new year. 2013 will be a turning point for me I am sure. I will not be downtrodden any more, say what I think to the person closest and tough sh*t if he is not happy about it. I have a get away 'clause' in my life now and will take advantage of it as and when.<br />
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-40019112605837599122012-12-05T10:58:00.001-08:002012-12-05T10:58:56.692-08:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Looks like the UK has well and truly gone to pot, except for
young William and Catherine who are expecting – felicitations!<o:p></o:p></div>
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Not only are there past celebrities and notable politicians
being accused of child molestation in the past but it seems that the homosexual
lobby have taken over and want their proclivities to be included in the
education of children in primary schools – no doubt nursery schools as well.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I cannot understand why the minority want to impose
themselves so strongly on the masses. The cases of respectable Christian
B&B owners being sued successfully by these people who wish to indulge in
practices that are not the norm really annoy me. Why aren’t the judges and
politicians doing their job properly and looking after the general populace. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Here we have had persons protesting vehemently in the
streets opposed to the idea of gay ‘marriage’ and also a couple of homosexuals
wanting to set up a mosque for like-minded Muslims. Heaven help the heterosexual population.<o:p></o:p></div>
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A lovely French friend sends me all sorts of emails, some
are decidedly pornographic so he gets a good telling off by return, some are
terribly twee PowerPoint presentations that seem to go on forever with the most
appalling musak as accompaniment, then there are the political emails. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Poor president Sarkozy and dear sweet Carla, how they were
caricatured and insulted over the couple of years they were in the Elysee palace.
Mr Hollande is now taking the brunt of the no-sayers, along with his life long
love Segolene and his new squeeze Valerie… A lot of it goes over my head but
they are butt of many a joke . Most of my French friends would rather have
petit Nicholas back in power…. </div>
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Says a
lot..</div>
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There are also the anti-Muslim emails. Islamaphobia rules OK! <o:p></o:p></div>
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We are little people in (very) rural France and the locals
are worried.<o:p></o:p></div>
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But, it seems that there has been a lively ethnic community
living not too far North of where we are for some years. My ‘dear friend from elsewhere’ (now there
is a description!) came for a short and
very sweet visit and took us to a very nice town North of here. </div>
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We have visited
said town many times in the past, either for the very large DIY store or the Polyclinic
where the ‘ologists’ hang out for consultations – you know the cardi, pneum,
proct, opthalm, gynaec, & etc. there are probably ‘icians’ there as well
but have not had cause to visit any of them.<o:p></o:p></div>
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My dear friend took us to the market – wow! I have never
been to such before – except in Turkey. It seems that there is a large population
of turks, & etc in this particular area and the market was, to my eyes amazing!
The most beautiful djellabas, leather goods, shoes, and such a large choice of
spices, pulses, vegetables . </div>
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I loved it! It will be on my itinerary in the
future.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Forget politics and racism, winter is edging its way into our lives and there are only three
weeks to Christmas… I wonder what that
will bring?<o:p></o:p></div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-13922517083032641612012-11-09T12:57:00.000-08:002012-11-09T12:57:04.380-08:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I know my last posting was a bit dire, that is how I felt,
really dire.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Generally things are fine. There are positive notes from our
children and our grandchildren are doing very well. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Little TJ is gaining weight all the time and is looking so
pink! His mum is coping very well, I do not know where she gets the strength, obviously
there is a deep resource somewhere. <o:p></o:p></div>
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No 1 daughter is fine, she is doing what she just loves to
do, messing around with chemicals and teaching students her craft, this is in
the absence of the tutor who is off sick. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Youngest daughter has decided, at long last, to leave her
partner of many years. He has been a waste of space as far as I am concerned
and she, and their children, will fare better without him in the equation. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Motherhood can be difficult. You do your best for your
children and hope that they do the best for their children.<o:p></o:p></div>
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So, this year has seen some changes.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I have taken Himself to various corners of the world in the
hope that he may come out of himself and start to enjoy life. <o:p></o:p></div>
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No joy. Friends have asked, ‘how was your holiday?’ his
reply ‘the flight was crap, couldn’t stand the airports, seats were awful &
etc.’ eventually he will say how his actual holiday was but you really need to
winkle it out of him. He only looks at the negative. <o:p></o:p></div>
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This is not good for me as I love the positive part of life.
I suppose we cancel each other out and end up neutral. What a laugh that is!<o:p></o:p></div>
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He has said though that he would like to do a cruise!!! Something
to look forward to, maybe..<o:p></o:p></div>
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Generally he goes to bed around 9.00 pm – he starts drinking
early and 3 or 4 hours later all he wants to do is sleep… I have really boring
evenings.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Maybe I should go into chat rooms and find someone to talk
to, but then I think that could be the slippery road to heavens knows what.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I have joined a keep fit class and fortunately know a couple
of like minded ladies to go with. Had my first session last week, left home
6.30pm got home just after 8.00 pm and instead of getting home to a nice meal I
arrive to someone who admitted he was completely drunk!! <o:p></o:p></div>
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I wanted to leave.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I cooked the meal that was basically prepared, and very nice it was too.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I was very disappointed and annoyed. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I said very little – what is the point when you will only
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Oh dear, it is not as bad as it seems, mainly mental not physical.... I do have to tread so carefully with him, bearing in mind we have been married so very long and know what his reactions can be. I only give him a bollocking (good word!) when he is sober in the morning. He says he takes it on board but, hey ho, does he? </div>
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I know I haven’t posted for a few weeks, lots of things have
been happening in my life and in the world generally. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Where do I start?<o:p></o:p></div>
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Me, I am fine, am saying what I feel and doing what I want
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Time for me.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Children are fine, grandchildren are fine, I thought about using
the word ‘kid’ but I am not a goat and neither are they … just hate that word
when it is being used in the wrong context.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Since my last posting we have also been to another friends
birthday celebration. He was very good, did not drink to excess and I was happy
to be driven home by him, I did suggest that we book a taxi but that was poo-pooed
as you can imagine.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I recently took a trip to the UK, a friend offered a lift
which I gladly accepted. Bit annoyed though, she has, this time, asked for
payment when in the past when I have offered she has said no problem… some
issues there methinks, maybe something to do with her offspring!<o:p></o:p></div>
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A dear friend out here invited himself to dinner one
evening. She told me the other night that she was a bit concerned that he would
get home in one piece considering the amount he had drunk… <o:p></o:p></div>
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So what happens now? I will speak with our doctor and let
her know how booze is taking over his evenings.</div>
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He starts at around 5.00 pm and
then decides to go to bed 4 hours later and he is putting away around three
full glasses an hour, and when I say full, I mean to overflowing! Over 2 bottles of wine an evening? </div>
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He is as fresh as a daisy in the morning – no
hangover at all - and as far as I am concerned that speaks volumes. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I thought it would be nice to stay in the UK for a few weeks or months or maybe forever....</div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-61055953220750021402012-09-01T12:20:00.000-07:002012-09-01T12:20:36.631-07:00Truth Hurts<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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It seems it does tonight…</div>
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I haven’t written about my ‘intimate’ life on this blog
before but I feel the need to do so now.<o:p></o:p></div>
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A few weeks ago, prior to our holiday, we went to celebrate
the birthday and also housewarming of a lovely French friend. Himself imbibed
too much and almost fell asleep at the table. I thought we should leave and go home,
how we made it into our door I don’t know – he could barely keep the car on the
road and French roads being what they are, we went the very rural route, I clung
to the seat as we swerved through the lanes. Fortunately we got home unscathed.
He did not remember any of it the next day.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Last week we celebrated another friend’s birthday. By 9pm he
was ready to leave, dozing at the table, again. We left and just made it home,
no shortcuts this time. Thank heavens the gendarmes were not around, he would
have lost his licence.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Tonight, we were supposed to be at another French friend’s,
for the evening, again celebrating a birthday. </div>
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He had forgotten to tell me so
it was not pencilled in. (grrr)<o:p></o:p></div>
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He was bemoaning about missing this event and I said “At
least I won’t be driven home by a drunk tonight”.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Truth hurts…. He did not like what I said – he didn’t have
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He has a drink problem and won't acknowledge it. I live with him, I don’t have to
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We sleep in separate rooms as his nocturnal 'behaviour' disturbs me too much, he does not snore, he just shouts and sometimes screams in his sleeps. His conversations, well one side of, are amazing but I cannot stand being woken three or four times a night and having to listen. He also kicks and punches so I am best out of the way. As far as he is concerned he has had a good nights sleep. He is obviously disturbed about something or maybe his medication has a play in this. . </div>
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Have just come back from another amazing holiday, 2<sup>nd</sup>
one this year, which is a record for me as I normally do holidays close to
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Last year our daughter said that she was off to Sharm el
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My offer was taken up, and when we looked at the costs for
me it would not be a lot more for another person to join me for double
occupancy. So I said to Himself, why don’t you come – response was, “yes why
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Fortunately we had a little spare cash so that paid for the
holiday, just needed to find ‘cool’ clothes for the trip. I umm’ed and aah’d
about a swimming costume as I don’t swim, just sink, and also my middle has
expanded and I am conscious of it, but I found shorts and skimpy tops which
were fine and I just exposed the bits I was comfortable with and developed a
gentle tan (factor 50 came into play) as I did not want to burn and end up with
skin like blistered leather.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Himself had a pair of swimming trunks from when I first knew
him – they should be in a museum of the 60’s, at least they contained what was
necessary to contain. <o:p></o:p></div>
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We all assembled at glorious Gatwick for the off. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Oh what fun doing a package holiday, first one for us…. And
probably the last!!<o:p></o:p></div>
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We paid for extra legroom on our seats so that we were
closer to our children, not that it made a lot of difference. There was the
jump seat for the hostess just the other side of the aisle and another guy was
in the seat opposite her. He was absolutely enormous. Not tall but his girth ,
to me, was unbelievable. His thighs were like my waist which is not small….. he
was shoehorned into the seat and had an extension for his seatbelt. His family
were elsewhere on the plane and normal size….. I just cannot get my head round
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Arrival was late to our destination. Stepping out of the
airport into 40+ degrees of temperature was unbelievable. Like walking into an
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We got to our hotel quite late but there was food available
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Our room was on the ground floor overlooking a couple of
pools, one quiet and one a tad noisy during the day. At least they were quiet
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The bathroom is just how I would like ours done and himself
agrees – yeah, one step in the right direction. It had a walk in shower, superb
basin arrangement and, of course, the obligatory loo. We had twin beds, and
they were huge! In fact the whole layout was good.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Our days were spent lounging around the pool, drifting into
the bar, eating breakfast, lunch and dinner. The only thing missing was bacon to
go with the fried eggs in the morning… <o:p></o:p></div>
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They had 5 a la carte restaurants, Lebanese, Indian, Chinese,
Italian and English. The Lebanese was OK, not like I have had here at all. The
Indian was excellent, Italian passable, English – well what can one say, very
English. The Chinese just had a certain ingredient missing, so no ribs to be
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We took a short shopping trip into Sharm el Sheik, it is
like a building site. There are some lovely looking places but others that are
in the process of being finished. I couldn’t find anything untouristy as
souveniers. There was just a load of tat in the shops.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Whilst we were there other holidaymakers arrived, lots from ‘oop
North’. No disrespect meant but overhearing some conversations I got the
impression that the Northerners were financially better off than us Southerners.
They honeymooned in exotic places and holidayed regularly in hot ‘package
holiday’ places. I always thought that they were poor ‘oop North’. There was a lot of ’lard’ being barely contained
in swimsuits and bikinis giving rise to red peeling bodies. What I did find
disturbing was the number of obese children there and watching the families filling
their faces at mealtimes it is no wonder that there is a future health timebomb.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Then the Russians arrived!
Bigger, bolder and very inconsiderate, greedy and rude… Apparently they are buying this particular
complex and most of the staff are being laid off to be replaced. Won’t be going
there again! <o:p></o:p></div>
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A trip to Cairo was booked, by bus, for three of us. Himself
decided he couldn’t do 7 hours on the bus so I went with daughter and granddaughter
leaving the men to look after the grandson, or was it the grandson looking
after the other two, I’m not sure.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Off we went, early start of 1am, trundling into the dark
desert with a lot of strangers. I just sat
and wondered what the hell I was doing that ungodly hour. I had an Egyptian guy
sat next to me, and for the whole journey he snored. I didn’t really rest. I
saw the sun rise and a very bleak outlook.
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Question: Jungle or Desert – Jungle every time!!<o:p></o:p></div>
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We went through the Suez Tunnel and into Cairo. Our guide
gave us a potted history of the city and I found it quite interesting but also depressing
as he was so proud of it all. I thought that Cairo was overcrowded, dirty,
noisy and the air grey with pollution. There had been riots a few weeks back and you could
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First stop was the Museum to see King Tutankhamun’s treasures but unfortunately it was a whistle
stop tour as the Museum would be closing early due to Ramadan. The artifacts
were absolutely incredible. I felt in awe of them. The detail was delightful to
see. I recently saw a programme about the use of gold in art and apparently in
ancient Egypt dwarves were goldsmiths as they were assumed to have magical
powers, if that was the case then yes they definitely did have amazing powers
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Our next stop was Giza to see the pyramids. What I found off-putting
was travelling along the main route to
the pyramids and passing a canal that was full of bags of rubbish as well as a
couple of dead horses. When you consider that water is a precious resource it
isn’t a good advertisement for the area! <o:p></o:p></div>
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I felt small and insignificant against the pyramids, yes
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We didn’t get to the Valley of the Kings or to see Petra in
Jordan, an excuse to go again but will be more selective as to which company I
go with or even go independent. I even have someone who would like to go as
well and I am not talking husband – he does not want to fly again!!<o:p></o:p></div>
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The day we came home we had to wait at Sharm airport –
Ramadan put everything on hold. Also the airplane was 1 ½ hours late taking off
and the big guy was squeezed into a regular seat . Didn’t get into bed at our
daughters until 5.30 in the morning. Such a long tiring day, no wonder Himself
does not want to fly again, me? I can hack it.. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-32686159613148347602012-07-08T12:13:00.002-07:002012-07-08T12:17:38.870-07:00Invasion<p class="MsoNormal">There is a growing British community out here in France, this influx is quite frightening as well as interesting.<o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNoSpacing">For this part of France it is the accessibility via the budget airlines to Nantes, Poitiers, Limoges and La Rochelle that has made the difference. When we first arrived we didn’t even think of flying here, it just wasn’t an option!<o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNoSpacing"> <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNoSpacing">I don’t know if the same is happening in Normandy, Mayenne, the Loire or Brittany or even places further South, although it probably has over the past 20 years as those areas were de rigueur then. I remember holidaying in not only Brittany but also the Charente many years ago and there were Brits wishing to invest in those areas and also as far down to the Dordogne.<o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNoSpacing"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNoSpacing">It appears that the majority of British ex-pats in the South of France are of the thespian, or musical, variety with a penchant to writing cookery books whilst holidaying in their villas overlooking Carcassonne or Port Grimaud, “Ah Daah,ling, such fantastic views, very nice my lovely, have another glass of The Widow, and have you seen ‘xxx’ lately Mwah, Mwah”. Thank heavens that I did not move there! <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNoSpacing"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">There are now lots of ladies in their early 30’s to mid-50’s who have arrived in my neck of the woods with their aspiring spouses, some of whom are working either in France or commuting from the UK to their homes here. <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">These ladies need to keep themselves occupied if they are not tied down with children, so they go into selling their crafts, consumables, company products or even selves.<o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">I do not want to buy skin care that comes in fancy bottles and cost the earth. Products that are not tested on animals it seems,” Ha!” I say “were you bothered about animal testing before you started selling this expensive stuff?”. No, I will not buy these products – I will stick to my simple cream that has been around for a very long time! <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">And as for wonderful paints that will cover every, and any surface. No thank you. ‘Shabby chic’ French is not me at all, even the French in this region don’t do ‘Shabby chic’.<o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Twee things that a made and put into galleries etc., and as for the chutneys, pickles, marmalade, etc., Not at those prices darling!!<o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Pork sausages and pates… are these people for real? Nic nacks, bibelots and charming things for babies. <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">The invasion is amazing, and in truth, alarming. I didn’t realise how many of my English compatriots are here and that it is only the tip of the iceberg. I have gleaned this information through a social networking group…. And I know a lot of Brits that are not members of this group so the implications are daunting. <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">No wonder the French are concerned about the influx of immigrants. <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">There are Artists and Authors, Beauticians, Corporate advisors, Dieticians and Dressmakers, Egg producers, Fancy cake makers, Gardeners, Hairdressers, Immobiliers, Jewellers, Keep fit teachers, Ladies who lunch, Masseurs, Number crunchers, Organisers, Pedicurists, ‘Quality food’ sellers, Reiki practitioners , Scarf sellers, Tea Shop owners, Translators and Therapists of all sorts, U, V, W, X, Y & Z… and then there are the spouses who are Architects, Builders, Carpenters, plasterers & etc.. They all either have or know a man who can.<o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">I know a lovely French guy who sends me regular emails about the threat of Islam in France – he should be worried about the threat of Englishwomen selling their wares. <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Quelle horreur, le plus recent invasion anglaise.<span style="font-size: 100%; "> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"> <o:p></o:p></p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4781055301292597839.post-56691017410330711002012-05-31T12:54:00.003-07:002012-05-31T13:11:58.404-07:00ANNOYANCE!!!!<p class="MsoNormal">Generally I am a relaxed sort of person, but sometimes I get a little riled.</p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 100%; ">I have a grandson who will be 8 years old this summer. His name is Terry. He was born with cerebral palsy. He is also quadriplegic and has epilepsy. His mother has been his sole carer as her husband could not cope with the fact that he has disabled son, and they have since divorced. They have a daughter who is coming up to 10 years old and my daughter has a son aged 14 years. (there were issues between son and stepfather which are now ‘resolved’ hmmm).</span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Terry went into Kings College Hospital for a routine operation the beginning of December 2011, it was to change the ‘gastro’ site through which he had been fed for the last few years as he does not have a swallow reflex, more of that later!<o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">After the ‘op’ things went a bit awry. Dear Terry had to have many surgical interventions and also further surgery which also involved opening his abdomen completely (imagine a cross cut into your abdomen – north/ south/ east/ west!). There were also infections that he caught and have been cured. Over the months that he was in Kings he was well looked after in their intensive care unit. We can only have praise for the care that they gave to Terry. Amazingly enough Manuka honey was used for the healing process… We can only thank Kings for the care that they gave to this little chap of ours. <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">During his stay at Kings it was discovered that Terry had a problem with his throat. It seems that the back of his throat is totally relaxed which is why he has had problems swallowing. Yes, he is now being fed directly into his stomach (but now bowel) but any other naturally produced fluids were being directed to his lungs as well as stomach. He used to get so many lung infections that he needed extra antibiotics for the infections. My daughter, his mother, would ask for this problem with his throat/lungs to be investigated and she was always shrugged off as a paranoid mother…. 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He used to share with his older brother, upstairs, but that is not sensible. Terry is putting on weight (at last!) and there are problems lifting him. He is not tiny after all and a hoist is now needed. It seems that ‘the powers to be’ have decided that Terry could go to foster carers that have the necessary equipment in place and that his mother can go visit him there…….but they will not arrange for the equipment to be put in place in his own home!! <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">OK, so what the fuck is going on here please??? (excuse the language)<o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal">As a grandmother I am angry. </p><p class="MsoNormal">I did send an email to no. 10 but you are limited to the amount of letters (including spaces and punctuation) and eventually got a standard reply.</p><p class="MsoNormal"> I will send the above to no.10, The Daily Mail, Telegraph and all and sundry (with a little extra added) until I get a satisfactory response... </p><p class="MsoNormal"> It is the cost of all the agencies involved!!!! </p><p class="MsoNormal">Just had a thought.... will contact his other grandparents - don't hear a lot from them!!!! About time they got involved....</p><p class="MsoNormal"><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"> </p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com3